My advice is: don't worry about things you have no control over. I would say that your mom is intending to have sex with this guy and there is nothing anyone can do about that.
Your mom has a history of bad decisions and she is not going to be looking for your opinion on her next decision. It is sad for your family that your mom does this, but you have no voice in it.
My advice is, learn from your mom's bad decisions and make a vow to do better with your own life. The one good thing about what she is doing is that she is making you think about all this and in the long run you may decide that you can do better.
I'm sorry this is happening to you but you need to focus on how to make your life better and what you can do to be a better person. It is not likely you can do anything to change or influence your mom to live better.
Listen, I am all for saving it for marriage, because that's my plan. However, when she finds a man, who truly loves her, he's not going to think she's a slut for having sex before marriage. I mean, the majority of the population has pre-marital sex, so it would be hypocritical of him to look down on her for that.[cheryl12]
Ok well it seems to me you feel responsable for your mom as you dont want to see her get hurt, but you are maybe doing your job a little too well. At the end of the day its her life and you got to let her make her own mistakes, even if tat ends in her getting hurt. You never know - this guy might just be the one who makes her happy and puts everything back on track. Im not saying she will love him more than your dad - im a believer in soul mates so everyone only gets one! - but that doesnt mean she cant love someone else and care for them. In my eyes, everything happens for a reason.
If i were you id tell her your concerns and talk it through with her but support her in whatever desicion she eventually makes, because if you turn against her as you disagree with her, you could just break her heart yourself.
hope i have helped - let me know how things go whatever you decide to do
Your mom is a grown woman. If she wants to have sex that is her choice. Most people don't wait til marriage. If your mom gets hurt then it only means she is naive...no offense. She should know better by now.[caffeinefree]
Yes, your mom had one soul mate, and that was your dad. But, I believe that, in life, we have a soul mate and a life love. So, should we ever lose the chance to be with our soul mate, we have someone else who we love dearly and could spend the rest of our lives with. You could try talking to your mom, but I'm sure she'll do what she wants, because she's the adult. Just tell her you love her, and that you'll be there no matter what. Your mom is a grown woman, and she can handle it. Heartbreak is just apart of life. You can't stop it from happening. It sounds like after your dad died, your mom's been all over the place. She doesn't know how to find the right man again.
I'm very sorry all this is happening to your mom. You sound very responsible for your mother. Are you just concerned, or does your mom not know how to help herself sometimes? I'm not sure what I believe about God giving only one perfect person. I do believe in God - whole-heartedly - but i'm just not sure about the marriage thing. What if God put together your mom and your dad for YOU? Not to say that your dad wasn't the perfect person for your mom. It's highly probable that he was. But what if your mom can't do it on her own and God is giving her someone who can help her out, even though he's never going to be your real dad, you know? Hope this helps. Best of luck ~Kate[PearlsPlease]
i'm not sure who it was. buttttt. i'm not sure it's going anywhere. ugh. maybe i should just chill out, you know? payne is a major cutiieeeee!:) your make up is beautiful, just makes you look more gorgeous! [dropxdeadxgorgeous]
i think it may be near to you, by a fine frenzy. if it says things like near to you, i am healing but it's takin so long, though he's gone and you are wonderful, it's hard to move on, yet. i'm better near to you. it that it?[dropxdeadxgorgeous]
haha yup u are lucky..and see..since im such a hypochondreac or w.e i think of ways ppl cud get sick!! i knoe these things haha..u always gotta check b4 hand that he changes his glovess![sodapop4]
omgg i hate gettin new wires..that wudnt b what mad u sick tho?? unless his gloves that he was in ur mouth with were dirty..from another kids sick mouth..eww haha i don even remeber if my guy wore gloves..which is not a good thing lol yeah well i got ma braces off june 4th..HEAVEN!! lol lucky ur moms a nurse! kinda wish mine was 2 considering ima hypocondreact...idk if i spelt that right AT ALL hahha[sodapop4]
You're only one person. You can't make everyone happy. I want to say that these boys will understand your descision, but since I don't know them and from my personal experience in the boy area, I don't think I can say that confidently. Sorry. :P
this problem will haunt u forver and there is no right answer becuse you just have to do what your heart says and that is hard as hard gets take care of urself and think about your heart and your head Sammi
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